Comments on: how NOT to have backslidden teenagers http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/ Momma, Mom, Mommy blogging through seasons of motherhood Thu, 19 Apr 2012 02:15:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Kela http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-6926 Kela Tue, 17 Nov 2009 14:22:14 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-6926 Yes, I know that this was written a little while ago. I found this post from Jacque's blog. We are in the throws of this phase as our oldest two are 14 and 15 y/o. The oldest walks with more conviction of knowing what glorifies or honors God but still wants to test the waters because of her "christian" friends at church. There is much to say about that, but not in this reply. The movies thing was a biggie this summer too. Even though we've gotten big resistence, they know ahead of time what we're gonna say. Thank you for the 30 list. So great :) Yes, I know that this was written a little while ago. I found this post from Jacque’s blog. We are in the throws of this phase as our oldest two are 14 and 15 y/o. The oldest walks with more conviction of knowing what glorifies or honors God but still wants to test the waters because of her “christian” friends at church. There is much to say about that, but not in this reply.
The movies thing was a biggie this summer too. Even though we’ve gotten big resistence, they know ahead of time what we’re gonna say.

Thank you for the 30 list. So great :)

]]> By: Honey http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-6077 Honey Wed, 02 Sep 2009 07:04:33 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-6077 I loved this post! These are things for us to think about as our children approach the teen years. Thank you. Blessings. I loved this post! These are things for us to think about as our children approach the teen years. Thank you. Blessings.

]]> By: Michelle http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5853 Michelle Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:53:10 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5853 Pray instead of sleeping. I like that one. They are all great! One thing I do with my children is allow them to make decisions for themselves with my supervision. I don't want them to believe what I believe just because I believe it. I want it to be real to them. So, if they ask me if something is honoring to the Father or not, I never just tell them. I ask them what they think. Often they will come to me and tell me of their convictions. And when I leave them to make a decision, I pray! But, Scripture is true, even a child knows what is right! I never thought of the term "teenager" as being negative. Makes sense, though. As long as "public schoolers" can be lumped in there as well. I am just grateful that I already call my 13 year old a young man. .-= Michelle ´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/DelightfulLearning/~3/cA5oqRRPcwc/web-design-for-kids.html" rel="nofollow">Web Design for Kids</a> =-. Pray instead of sleeping. I like that one. They are all great!

One thing I do with my children is allow them to make decisions for themselves with my supervision. I don’t want them to believe what I believe just because I believe it. I want it to be real to them. So, if they ask me if something is honoring to the Father or not, I never just tell them. I ask them what they think. Often they will come to me and tell me of their convictions. And when I leave them to make a decision, I pray! But, Scripture is true, even a child knows what is right!

I never thought of the term “teenager” as being negative. Makes sense, though. As long as “public schoolers” can be lumped in there as well.

I am just grateful that I already call my 13 year old a young man.
.-= Michelle ´s last blog ..Web Design for Kids =-.

]]> By: Michele http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5673 Michele Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:35:05 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5673 Amen....I am guilty of using the term Teenagers....but have always hated it....never again!!!! Oh and the movies....driving me crazy right now....everyone (Christian friends)is watching such trash that I refuse to let my kids see, making it so hard because all the friends are telling them how great they are and then I have to explain that it is not pleasing to God even though all thier Christian friends are the ones who loved it....I do not get it. Thank you so much for this article, it is so encouraging when you find someone who is on the same page....then you realize you are not alone on this journey!!! :-) .-= Michele´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/pathoflife/707788/" rel="nofollow">Homeschool Dance</a> =-. Amen….I am guilty of using the term Teenagers….but have always hated it….never again!!!!
Oh and the movies….driving me crazy right now….everyone (Christian friends)is watching such trash that I refuse to let my kids see, making it so hard because all the friends are telling them how great they are and then I have to explain that it is not pleasing to God even though all thier Christian friends are the ones who loved it….I do not get it.
Thank you so much for this article, it is so encouraging when you find someone who is on the same page….then you realize you are not alone on this journey!!! :-)
.-= Michele´s last blog ..Homeschool Dance =-.

]]> By: Karen W http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5585 Karen W Sun, 12 Jul 2009 01:16:02 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5585 It's just common sense. Or perhaps I should say, uncommon sense because so many parent's don't have a clue. .-= Karen W´s last blog ..<a href="http://karenwoodward.blogspot.com/2009/07/this-is-beginning-of-my-story-of-being.html" rel="nofollow">My Story - Part 1</a> =-. It’s just common sense. Or perhaps I should say, uncommon sense because so many parent’s don’t have a clue.
.-= Karen W´s last blog ..My Story – Part 1 =-.

]]> By: Dorothy L http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5584 Dorothy L Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:49:37 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5584 What an excellent post of awareness and hindsight for parents of young teens! Keeping the communication doors open is also vital to maintaining an honest and healthy relationship. Even when what they are telling you is not what you might enjoy hearing....breathe and/or go for a walk then return. Whatever you do....do not cut them off before they have finished sharing and/or become irrational or judgmental. What an excellent post of awareness and hindsight for parents of young teens!
Keeping the communication doors open is also vital to maintaining an honest and healthy relationship.
Even when what they are telling you is not what you might enjoy hearing….breathe and/or go for a walk then return. Whatever you do….do not cut them off before they have finished sharing and/or become irrational or judgmental.

]]> By: Penny http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5583 Penny Sat, 11 Jul 2009 15:19:18 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5583 JoJo I appreciate your comments, please feel free to leave links for your books. :) JoJo I appreciate your comments, please feel free to leave links for your books. :)

]]> By: JoJo Tabares http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5582 JoJo Tabares Sat, 11 Jul 2009 15:10:06 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5582 Being a parent is being a leader. A Godly leader doesn't lead by fear or with power. He or she leads with love, by example and expresses himself well so the child understands more than what to do but why. I talk about this in my latest book, The Language of Leadership. My dd has been a big opponent of the word teenager. She gets upset when the media portrays young people as having to go through this rebellious right of passage. But I do have to say that even the best parent can have teens with a rebellious heart at times and if that teen has medical issues, that can complicate things quite a lot. Being a parent is being a leader. A Godly leader doesn’t lead by fear or with power. He or she leads with love, by example and expresses himself well so the child understands more than what to do but why. I talk about this in my latest book, The Language of Leadership. My dd has been a big opponent of the word teenager. She gets upset when the media portrays young people as having to go through this rebellious right of passage.

But I do have to say that even the best parent can have teens with a rebellious heart at times and if that teen has medical issues, that can complicate things quite a lot.

]]> By: Felicia http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5578 Felicia Sat, 11 Jul 2009 00:10:55 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5578 Ditto to what Amanda said. :smile: Amen indeed! So, so true. I think the two things that help us a lot are love and discipline. Love, so that we know we ARE loved and wanted, and firm yet caring discipline, to define right from wrong very clearly! Ditto to what Amanda said. :smile:
Amen indeed! So, so true.
I think the two things that help us a lot are love and discipline. Love, so that we know we ARE loved and wanted, and firm yet caring discipline, to define right from wrong very clearly!

]]> By: Sherry http://pennyraine.com/blog/2009/07/how-not-to-have-backslidden-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-5577 Sherry Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:57:35 +0000 http://pennyraine.com/blog/?p=4159#comment-5577 Thank you for this wonderful post! :D Thank you for this wonderful post! :D

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